If you have a question that “Why you should stop trying to be more confident?” then the answer is “Low self-confidence is more likely to make you successful”. Plenty of research shows that mastering self-compassion is a better tactic when it comes to relationship and career success.
Good news for folks who aren’t alpha dogs with super high self-esteem: Your lack of confidence might actually help you in the workplace. Having a lower self-confidence reduces the chances of coming across as arrogant or being deluded. Less-confidence makes you pay attention to negative feedback and be self-critical.
Here are some ways to make you successful with low self-confidence. So, let’s start to take a review on the given points and build your path for the successful career.
Lower Self-Confidence Can Motivate You to Work Harder and Prepare More
- If you are serious about your goals, you will have more incentive to work hard when you lack confidence in your abilities.
- In fact, low confidence is only demotivating when you are not serious about your goals. If you are serious about your goals, low self-confidence can be your biggest ally to accomplish them.
- It will motivate you to work hard, help you work on your limitations, and stop you from being a jerk, deluded, or both.
Lower Self-Confidence Reduces the Chances of Coming across as Arrogant or Being Deluded
- The key, according to Chamorro-Premuzic, is “just-low-enough confidence” — in other words, not so low that you wind up paralyzed with anxiety and doubt, but low enough that you’re able to create realistic goals.
- Lower self-confidence reduces not only the chances of coming across as arrogant but also of being deluded.
- Indeed, people with low self-confidence are more likely to admit their mistakes — instead of blaming others — and rarely take credit for others’ accomplishments.
- This is arguably the most important benefit of low self-confidence because it points to the fact that low self-confidence can bring success, not just to individuals but also to organizations and society.
Less-Confidence Makes You Pay Attention to Negative Feedback and Be Self-Critical
- Most people get trapped in their optimistic biases, so they tend to listen to positive feedback and ignore negative feedback.
- Although this may help them come across as confident to others, in any area of competence (e.g., education, business, sports or performing arts) achievement is 10% performance and 90% preparation.
- Thus, the more aware you are of your soft spots and weaknesses the better prepared you will be.
In brief, our advice to everyone is to remain humble and self-critical, no matter how much you achieve. The biggest accomplishments of civilization are a function of relentless ambition and hard work, and the more confident we feel, the less motivated and driven we will be to work hard and keep improving.
It is time debunk the myth: High self-confidence isn’t a blessing, and low self-confidence is not a curse — in fact, it is the other way around.